That "lack of respect of women towards men" is just not true. Sure, we are personally seeing more of it... but that's because the internet allows us to see it. And let's be real, there is just as many men who do the same towards women.
Often times, these men and women are hurt by bad people of the opposite gender and blame the entire gender, mistrust the entire gender... but forget that they're not scum because of gender but scum regardless of gender.
That isn't the actual majority case. In fact, that is just a minority that we can now see... honestly most people would probably live their entire lives and never meet those kinda people... the internet just gives the illusion that they are more common.
It's also a case for kidnapping and violence. Because we see it on TV or the net, we fear it more than we logically should (cause our brains aren't wired for world level though).
And I personally feel that you are allowing your personal fears to affect your judgement of the character. It's pretty clear she loves him.
Also, the term "gold digger" is often mixed. We need to remember that for most of human history, the ONLY way women could ever better their lives was with men.
The very idea that women can earn their own better life is a new one.
But it's also not everything to a woman either. It's like how guys get attracted to beautiful women, women get attracted to wealth... what matters isn't why they get with you, but what they do once married.
Jiange He's love for him is so obvious it's crazy. And that's what is pissing me off. He's taking advantage of that love and care she has for him and ignoring her values.
And honestly, when people break some values, they are likely to break more. Most people who cheat don't think cheating is okay. They just broke those values.
As long as the value isn't harmful, keeping values is often better than breaking them, cause if not, you are breaking your character... and can you really trust a person who can't keep their character???
Now, why do I now have this strange feeling that as if I am talking to a woman?
Internet allows men to see bad women, in the same way bad women teach ordinary women how to treat men badly over the same internet? In my childhood women were pretty normal sensible people. Even in my university days. But after 2005 with internet becoming popular, the women simply lost their minds. I no longer remember how many times I have had to change my carrier choices because of crazy women falsely accusing me or my friends of some harassment. And this just a workplace. The family life is even worse. Just in my country 70% of marriages end in divorce. And 80% of those divorces are initiated my women. The population growth rate is way below replacement rate. And there is a war at doorstep. If war wont finish this country off, women surely will. Lets just say I am just baffled by the amount of hatred women actually harbor towards men. What the hell? When did these wonderful creatures turned into such monsters? Someone must have replaced them with aliens or mutants and gave them a shape of women. Because these are certainly not the same creatures that were from my time of youth. It just gives me the idea that women were always like this, they just didn't have a chance to show it off. And if that the case, I pretty much don't want to have anything in common with them, or keep their every action under heavy scrutiny. You never know where the punch will come from. Better be ready than sorry.
I do not see how where and how she loves him. She surely loves the life they are having, and worries about him as provider of that life. But beyond that, it is my understanding that Xue is useless to her.
Throughout the history the only way for women to have a better life was with a man. And it is somehow different now? It still is, but these "modern" women think they know better.
Women cant earn their own better life alone. It is a delusional thought. First of all, a life for a woman without children which is something that automatically cannot happen without a man, is a direct attack on the foundation of being a woman. What is the worth of a woman in this life is she cant even hold a man and have children with him? It is a wasted life. Since we all live only once, it is equal to suicide. You call this "earning a better life alone"? Modern women are delusional beyond recognition. I am so shocked to see them so easily following that path that I am not sure which part of their body I shall feel sorry for?
A woman's beauty is the same as mans wealth? Excuse me? What kind of shallow thinking is this? Are you really going to tell me that women feel absolutely no attraction to good looking men? And if they do, why focusing on wealth alone? This sentence sounds like the reasoning that a gold digger should have. So she is trading her beauty to his wealth? Selling off her body to the man? Excuse me, I am not sure about women, but men arent that shallow. Most men wouldn't trade their freedom for women who sell their bodies off. They will have fun with them, and then pass her to the next guy to do the same.
I do not see how Jiang He loves him. And he surely isn't taking advantage of her. If he truly tried to take advantage of her, he would place her between choice of either leaving him alone or crawling to him in the bed.
I do not see why Jiang He would place such a great value on marriage. If Jiang He has brains she should know that marriage wont guarantee her a winning hand. He can leave her with divorce after bed fun and that will be end of it. To think in that line is lack of reasoning. Unless the priorities are different. Which is exactly what I think the case here is.
Of course holding up to ones values shows strength of character. But holding up to the values that do not make any sense shows absence of any character.
