My Wife Is From a Thousand Years Ago - Ch. 225

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Why is it so hard for people to understand that jiang he wants to be more intimate and do those things with him, you can tell by the way she acts toward him and how she blushes when he teases her and her him, but she comes from a time where you didn't have intimate sexual relations until after you were married. To be thrust 1000yrs into the future where that stuff is normal would be a shock to anybody, also she's shy and nervous when it comes to being intimate, but that to be expected, also she's a virgin too, so she's probably a little apprehensive to anything more than kissing, holding hands, a little touching and whatnot.
 
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Why are her eyes fucked? Her pupils are looking down but her iris is looking straight forward. Is she a mutant?

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Fireworks, magic, and mystical beginnings!
Our boy may finally stand a chance to claim winnings!
Embracing his L'amour with a gentle caress!
Kissing her neck and buried within her chest!

My gods! My heavens! Is tonight the precious night?
Where barrier's are finally worn under the pale moonlight?
Is this the moment we have waited my fellow readers?
Will our cute yet distant couple finally become a pair of breeders!

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Eh...I see what you're talking about in terms of 'pressure,' and you're right that sex, and by extension kids, definitely makes it harder to do other things (whether in a fantastical context of time travel like this one or in general, like juggling motherhood and a career, etc.--there's a reason many companies nowadays try to make themselves more attractive to women by advertising work-life balance, and I've even heard paternity leave for men is becoming more common in fact). Still, in previous chapters she did notice Xu Qing's body, so I don't think she's actually unattracted entirely to him. So it doesn't seem like he's pressuring her into something she'd otherwise have no interest at all in, which would definitely be sleazy and bad.
She could be slightly attracted to him. After all they live together and less than that would not be possible. Even if you live with a hardly attractive woman in your house for more than a year, you would feel attracted to her no matter what you say. But that level of attraction may keep you away from wanting to tie your life to her. I imagine women feel the same way.

Normally a woman who is full in into a man acts in a completely different manner. Even if they are shy, they wont be able to hold themselves back on that shyness. It will explode on their behavior in one way or the other.

I do not think this woman is attracted to that man enough to have a family with him.
 
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She's been clear that in spite of feeling attracted, she does not want to do dirty things. She's stated she wants sex to be part of marriage for one. She also feels uncomfortable with their dynamic since she's indebted to him for taking her in. The time still isn't right.

And since she's clearly said "no" he's being scummy for continuing to push.
Even if she was a modern person, the life she is having wouldnt be possible without a man in it. Gong Peng is a modern woman, but in terms of family life she is miserable. There is no point in telling him that she likes him and then hold herself back and calling it absense of marriage. Marriage can be abolished just like established. Its power over men is imaginary at best. Toying around with Xue is despicable. Saying that there is any debt between them is despicable as well. He clearly stated many times that he doesnt expect her to pay back her. He forgave all her debts. She simply creates excuses to avoid him.
 
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Yes, she just watches dirty things instead, multiple times. I see it more like she just hesitates a lot cause her mindset is in between the olden times of wanting to maintain a clear conscience before marriage and wanting to do dirty things in modern days before marriage.
Old people did things before marriage too. That is why they got drowned in pig cages. To say that old people didnt know whats going on is nonsense. She knows that there is no threat to her life in modern days if she lets it go further. She already let her mind go into dirty land by watching porn, therefore she already has no issues with being drowned in pig cage anyway. I think she does not like him. Or at least not that much to tie her life with him. Seriously, what keeps them together once the hormones get out of the way? There is no much common between them other than bed fun.
 
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Why is it so hard for people to understand that jiang he wants to be more intimate and do those things with him, you can tell by the way she acts toward him and how she blushes when he teases her and her him, but she comes from a time where you didn't have intimate sexual relations until after you were married. To be thrust 1000yrs into the future where that stuff is normal would be a shock to anybody, also she's shy and nervous when it comes to being intimate, but that to be expected, also she's a virgin too, so she's probably a little apprehensive to anything more than kissing, holding hands, a little touching and whatnot.
And all the people who drowned in pig cages during her time were all time travellers coming from modern times? It doesnt look like Jiang He has any problem with adapting to new thinking way since she jumped watching porn quite immediately once she discovered.

I think she is toying with this guy.
 
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Thanks for the translation as always Paragon.


Genuinely asking, is the protag that scummy? Unless I'm misunderstanding something he's reciting goofy poetry to get her in the mood (that stuff about becoming sworn brothers and whatnot) like a hapless Westerner might quote Shakespeare to be 'romantic'. I don't see how he's pressuring her unduly or otherwise being sleazy, though yeah I would agree that he's a dork lol.
Here is the thing, she repeatedly stated she wanted to wait for marriage. So that's a strong belief for her.

The fact that he's not respecting that belief and is even trying to gas light her into believing her ideas are stupid is a huge lack of respect.

And let's be real. If he actually loves her, couldn't he just wait that little bit of time??? Once he's married, couldn't he have fun then???

He keeps on pressuring her trying to go further and further... even though all she wanted was to wait till marriage...

He couldn't even give that little bit of respect???

He literally guilt tripped her so that they would share a bed...

Think of how little respect he has for the fact that he forced her to go against one of her own beliefs just for his own selfish lust.

It's actually quite horrible. If a woman tries to force a man over and over when he also says he wants to wait, then I also think it's scummy on her part.

It's not like I think that people do have to wait or what not... but the idea that if they have that idea, you have a responsibility as a partner to give that respect.

Because if you can't even love and respect your partner enough to wait, repeatedly pressuring them and tricking them, then can you really say you love them???
 
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I hope you guys understand that pushing limits is fine, it's when you ignore when someone says "No" after pushing limits that you are scum.

Obviously it's more complicated in a real life with sub text, power dynamics and etc, but it's pretty clear here: cross the line and she will kick his ass.

Has his ass been kicked? :dogkek:
Literally. He's not strong enough to push her down yet and she could beat his ass or throw him off if she didn't like it, or just straight up say no but some part of her obviously wants to do it since she's kind of trying to o make excuses, also they've been together for like a year at this point, I'm glad we're getting this progression
 
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Here is the thing, she repeatedly stated she wanted to wait for marriage. So that's a strong belief for her.

The fact that he's not respecting that belief and is even trying to gas light her into believing her ideas are stupid is a huge lack of respect.

And let's be real. If he actually loves her, couldn't he just wait that little bit of time??? Once he's married, couldn't he have fun then???

He keeps on pressuring her trying to go further and further... even though all she wanted was to wait till marriage...

He couldn't even give that little bit of respect???

He literally guilt tripped her so that they would share a bed...

Think of how little respect he has for the fact that he forced her to go against one of her own beliefs just for his own selfish lust.

It's actually quite horrible. If a woman tries to force a man over and over when he also says he wants to wait, then I also think it's scummy on her part.

It's not like I think that people do have to wait or what not... but the idea that if they have that idea, you have a responsibility as a partner to give that respect.

Because if you can't even love and respect your partner enough to wait, repeatedly pressuring them and tricking them, then can you really say you love them???
Can you really say you love them? I mean you.

What does it even mean pressuring her? If she likes him she will welcome it. From what I gather she rejects almost any advances from him to begin with. She is obviously not attracted to him (ok some minimal level exists but far from where it should be). It cannot be explained by being shy. Shyness isnt strong enough to overcome true emotions.

You talked about having a belief regarding saying no to premarital intimacy. Well guess what. The world does not turn around one person. If you live in a relationship that is destined to go to marriage, your beliefs will constantly be challenged. More often than you wish to admit to yourself you may have to back off too. What is the value of marriage? Lets say he waited her and married her. Then next day filled for divorce. Have fun.
 
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Literally. He's not strong enough to push her down yet and she could beat his ass or throw him off if she didn't like it, or just straight up say no but some part of her obviously wants to do it since she's kind of trying to o make excuses, also they've been together for like a year at this point, I'm glad we're getting this progression
He can do it to her at gun point. There is a good reason why modern people arent martial artists. Its obsolte. Doing that doesnt change the nature of this act. Its a rape. If she likes to be raped Qing has to have a serious discussion about this with her rather than talking the intricacies of prematrial intimacy that she focuses her enterie existence around.
 
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Can you really say you love them? I mean you.

What does it even mean pressuring her? If she likes him she will welcome it. From what I gather she rejects almost any advances from him to begin with. She is obviously not attracted to him (ok some minimal level exists but far from where it should be). It cannot be explained by being shy. Shyness isnt strong enough to overcome true emotions.

You talked about having a belief regarding saying no to premarital intimacy. Well guess what. The world does not turn around one person. If you live in a relationship that is destined to go to marriage, your beliefs will constantly be challenged. More often than you wish to admit to yourself you may have to back off too. What is the value of marriage? Lets say he waited her and married her. Then next day filled for divorce. Have fun.
That's not the point.

The point is that was a belief she had and an important one to her.

And if that really is important to her, he should give that respect.

She's going to be his anyways. Does he need to rush her??? And she was attracted to him. That was just her value.

Yes, the WORLD doesn't revolve around one person. But this is not about the entire world. This is about THEM.

And HE needs to show respect for her beliefs.

If he isn't willing to even give that kind of respect to her... can he be trusted???

It's not about purity or stuff like that (I'm not against premarital sex or sh*t like that), it's for this specific case where I feel it's wrong.

He's trying to make himself pitiful and make her lower the guard...

It's basically a lack of respect for her beliefs.

Yes, beliefs will be challenged. But that doesn't mean he shouldn't respect her beliefs.

If she goes too far for no sex.. maybe... but she's just wanting to wait till marriage.

If she asked for that, shouldn't he respect that???

Why is asking for respect such a bad thing???

And your last point makes no sense. What does him getting a divorce have to do with anything??? This is about respecting your partner and valuing them.

If having sex is more important to you then respecting your partner's boundaries and values... then that's not a good relationship.

If she just naturally changed those values on her own. Fine. But he's trying to change those values forcefully for a bit earlier sex....

THAT is what I find scummy. He's not even that far from marriage with her. He can't wait that little bit of time for her???
 
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That's not the point.

The point is that was a belief she had and an important one to her.

And if that really is important to her, he should give that respect.

She's going to be his anyways. Does he need to rush her??? And she was attracted to him. That was just her value.

Yes, the WORLD doesn't revolve around one person. But this is not about the entire world. This is about THEM.

And HE needs to show respect for her beliefs.

If he isn't willing to even give that kind of respect to her... can he be trusted???

It's not about purity or stuff like that (I'm not against premarital sex or sh*t like that), it's for this specific case where I feel it's wrong.

He's trying to make himself pitiful and make her lower the guard...

It's basically a lack of respect for her beliefs.

Yes, beliefs will be challenged. But that doesn't mean he shouldn't respect her beliefs.

If she goes too far for no sex.. maybe... but she's just wanting to wait till marriage.

If she asked for that, shouldn't he respect that???

Why is asking for respect such a bad thing???

And your last point makes no sense. What does him getting a divorce have to do with anything??? This is about respecting your partner and valuing them.

If having sex is more important to you then respecting your partner's boundaries and values... then that's not a good relationship.

If she just naturally changed those values on her own. Fine. But he's trying to change those values forcefully for a bit earlier sex....

THAT is what I find scummy. He's not even that far from marriage with her. He can't wait that little bit of time for her???
*Patts on his forehead in disappointment.

How old are you kid? Have you ever been in relationship ever?

You keep talking about respecting her respecting. Excuse me, if she loves Qing shouldnt she also respect the wishes of her partner? Doesnt indulging in sex involve that? If she truly belives that she will end up his then whats the point? And if she truly has feelings for him, isnt it disrespectful to herself to ignore her own desires towards him?

Beliefs belifs.....the concept of belifs itself is based on stupidity. What difference it would make if she belives that she will sleep with him if sun rises from the west that day she will sleep with him?

And there is an excellent reason for why a man wants to quickly have sex and kids with a woman. And it tramples many so called respect points of yours since that type of advances ensures that this respect is well worth keeping. Do you understand that having a kid with a woman locks her for entire life to be his? She wont be able so easily file for divorce and leave him since no other man will want to father someone elses kid. Doesnt it make sense to do that to her as soon as possible if he really wants to keep her? And if she refuses, doesnt that show that she has alterior motives? That she views all that arrangement as temporary and takes advantage of Qing? Maybe she is really from mountains and comes up with nonsense like time travel to lock up a nerdy guy since it gives her a good communication starter? Then wouldnt her behavior like that can only show that she tries to get her ID and then get out without scars? Do you think Qing should be that stupid to let her take advantage of him so easily?

Uncle Qing has his own game to play....
 
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