Your original post:
It's nice to hear from someone with personal experience. Tell me: Did you enthusiastically beg for more halfway through? Maybe take a little extra time to enjoy the moment despite your abuser telling you to hurry things along? The questions are, of course, rhetorical. If you were raped, then you definitely didn't do any of the above. Guess what she did.
Let's break it down sentence by sentence, and then take a broader perspective just to see why it's obviously a personal attack on LesbianAnimeism instead of an actual argument about whether there was rape in the story.
"It's nice to hear from someone with personal experience." ... What.The.Fuck. You say that to someone who tells you they're a e.g., a bartender, NOT something you say to someone who just told you they are a victim of rape (or indeed,
any crime). As a purely rhetorical device...I suppose it's fine out of context, but there are at least half a dozen easy ways to acknowledge the perspective she brought to the table even if you disagree with it. Look at Eighty-Six, he managed to do it without stumbling out the gate. You, on the other hand, deliberately chose a response that's either mindlessly glib or intentionally meant to spit in her face. And because I don't believe you're mindless, it must have been the latter.
The alternative reading is that you
unilaterally decided that she wasn't actually a victim and consequently decided to mock her for it. More on that in a bit.*
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Tell me: ...." Ah, this is a classic cynical rhetorical strategy to preface a series of rhetorical questions solely for the purpose of mocking the point you intend to argue against. I use the word
mock here because it demonstrates no intent to actually listen to the other party. So let's look at those questions to see how they're used, eh?
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Did you..." --> Because this question immediately follows the clause about "experience" (which we know to be the original poster's status as a rape victim), we can transpose that into a preceding clause.
Therefore, "Did you" is read as "
[When you were raped], did you..." Again, What.The.Fuck. You are
telling the victim of a rape to
relive the crime committed against her. Under what rhetorical structure should this be considered appropriate? We're not investigators or therapists, we were (originally) debating whether a fictional character experienced a rape. Compare and contrast, by contrasting the story elements against the original poster's argument? OK, that's an awful way to go about it, but for the benefit of the doubt let's see if your questions actually referred back to the point of discussion. The only logical (and indeed, legitimate) way to do this would be to change the
subject of the question from the original poster to the girl from the story. Or, refer to the argument she raised about what constitutes rape. Otherwise, the question remains focused on the original poster and apply to her and her alone. You could accomplish this easily by using the pronoun "she/her" because you are responding to the original poster by "you/yours". Or maybe just say "In the story, the girl..." So, let's take a look at the rest.
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Did you enthusiastically beg for more halfway through? Maybe take a little extra time to enjoy the moment despite your abuser telling you to hurry things along? " (ug, vomiting a
little lot as I read this) Let's see...huh, that's weird, I don't see a single instance of "she" in this pair of questions. Or "her". I see three instances of "you" (again, preserving the original poster as the subject of the questions) but none indicating that the line of questioning was meant to tie back to the girl in the story. Conclusion: this line of so-called "rhetorical questions" is in fact NOT meant to refer back to the story, but instead is meant to apply solely to the original poster. Probably with a predatory leer. But do they address
any of her arguments? I don't see them referenced here....
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The questions are, of course, rhetorical." Thanks Captain Obvious. So you're saying that forcing the original poster to relive being raped had no logical value and was just for kicks. Her actual contributions to the debate have been disregarded without a single attempt to refute them. Great job! (...and what would you have said if she'd said "yes"?)
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If you were raped, then you definitely didn't do any of the above." Oh. This. This is the kicker. This is direct victim-blaming, no if, ands, or buts about it. I imagine you could see this exact phrase pulled from real life rape trials where the
character of the victim was attacked by scummy defense attorneys as the means of swaying the jury to find her assailant not guilty (aka "she deserved it"). A woman told you she was raped, and then (need I remind you, right after you asked her to relive the crime) you tell her maybe she wasn't,
without any factual or logical support. There's no debate, no setting of frames of reference and weighing of factors, just outright rejection of the proposition. And it doesn't address the actual substance of her argument, either. So...if you're not responding to her actual argument, then what are you doing? Targeting her with victim-blaming bullshit, by telling her that her experience is irrelevant. Great way to win the argument in a jury of your peers! I dare you to find me a legal manual that says otherwise.
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Guess what she did." ...I feel like we're forgetting something, aren't we? Oh right, the original poster's comment was responding to arguments about the behavior of the girl in the story. Here she is. Sike, mocking the original poster, avoiding actually responding to her points, and victim-blaming her for laughs was actually all about the girl in the story all along! And lol you still haven't addressed any of the points OP raised!
So, here we have a response to original poster's post that spends
more than 80% of its time attacking the original poster, and
0% responding to her assertions. I can't say why, except that maybe her testimonial undercuts your convenient perspective on how women should act in a rape?
Wait, I said I was going to come back to an alternative reading of the first sentence, wasn't I?
It's my experience that when someone says "I was raped", or something along those lines, all rational discussion is out the window.
Ah, there we go. You decided that because rational discussion was out the window, rather than address the inconvenient logic behind the original poster's argument you'd just say "LOL, you got raped" (leer) and win the argument by character assassination instead. Truly a masterstroke of rhetoric, there. Please send this to your local debate club and let me know how they respond. Or even better, get a local DA on the horn, read it to them verbatim and ask for tips.