Tobioriyou to Shiteiru Joshikousei wo Tasuketara Dou Naru no Ka? - Vol. 3 Ch. 17 - Because I’m your Boyfriend.
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I'm shocked that people are surprised by the "logic" of this.
It's Japan.
The country of "don't stand out and call attention to yourself because image is everything and you don't want to be made to look bad" of course has a trope where characters threatening to expose wrongdoing are told that their dirty laundry will be aired too and it's a real concern to them. and that something "improper" like teenagers of the opposite sex living together unsupervised where they could be doing all sorts of shameful things is considered on par with "dad violently beating his own child but it's ok because it's just "corrective discipline""
The country of "respect your seniors/elders/betters because they're more important than you" will default a my-word-against-yours battle to the person of greater seniority/age/respect when it's a well-known former baseball player vs joe average high school student even in the face of what seems like inarguable evidence.
The country of "what happens in my house is my business and not for you to get involved" (to the point that real world domestic violence is considered vastly underreported in Japan relative to other parts of the developed world because there's tremendous pressure not to call attention to "private matters" and shame yourself and your family) will of course make the dad wield that excuse like a club to protect his "right" to abuse his daughter
The country of "think of everyone else before yourself" will always treat that mindset like a shield to make people back down because if your personal shame is your own cross to bear with dignity and grace whereas sinking other peoples' lives because you refused to take that burden wholly on yourself is considered selfish and pitiable.
These are standard story beats in dramatic works. Maybe they don't all always pile up like this and maybe they don't all always come with significant obvious grotesque physical abuse the way this one did to the point that the FMC is depicted as severely injured and not just "she shows up at school the next day with her wrist taped up and a bandage on her cheek" but none of this should be surprising in the least if you've read any reasonable amount of dramatic manga or watched any reasonable amount of dramatic anime or Japanese tv/movies.
To be clear I'm not saying that any of this is morally correct or right. But a lot of the reaction seems to be as much about disbelief in how it played out as it is revulsion of the dad's actions.
I'm mostly actually surprised that if the above spoilers are accurate that
BTW what's the tag for the blurry in-line spoilers? The spoiler option in the post editor only seems to do the collapsible box kind.
It's Japan.
The country of "don't stand out and call attention to yourself because image is everything and you don't want to be made to look bad" of course has a trope where characters threatening to expose wrongdoing are told that their dirty laundry will be aired too and it's a real concern to them. and that something "improper" like teenagers of the opposite sex living together unsupervised where they could be doing all sorts of shameful things is considered on par with "dad violently beating his own child but it's ok because it's just "corrective discipline""
The country of "respect your seniors/elders/betters because they're more important than you" will default a my-word-against-yours battle to the person of greater seniority/age/respect when it's a well-known former baseball player vs joe average high school student even in the face of what seems like inarguable evidence.
The country of "what happens in my house is my business and not for you to get involved" (to the point that real world domestic violence is considered vastly underreported in Japan relative to other parts of the developed world because there's tremendous pressure not to call attention to "private matters" and shame yourself and your family) will of course make the dad wield that excuse like a club to protect his "right" to abuse his daughter
The country of "think of everyone else before yourself" will always treat that mindset like a shield to make people back down because if your personal shame is your own cross to bear with dignity and grace whereas sinking other peoples' lives because you refused to take that burden wholly on yourself is considered selfish and pitiable.
These are standard story beats in dramatic works. Maybe they don't all always pile up like this and maybe they don't all always come with significant obvious grotesque physical abuse the way this one did to the point that the FMC is depicted as severely injured and not just "she shows up at school the next day with her wrist taped up and a bandage on her cheek" but none of this should be surprising in the least if you've read any reasonable amount of dramatic manga or watched any reasonable amount of dramatic anime or Japanese tv/movies.
To be clear I'm not saying that any of this is morally correct or right. But a lot of the reaction seems to be as much about disbelief in how it played out as it is revulsion of the dad's actions.
I'm mostly actually surprised that if the above spoilers are accurate that
this doesn't end with the MC beating the hell out of the dad until he breaks down and apologizes that this is all because he didn't know how to handle his wife's death and it ends with everyone forgiving him and him magically becoming a better person because forgiveness is the greatest virtue and "winning" against someone in a battle of convictions that plays out as a physical fight solves all problems (see almost every shonen anime ever).
BTW what's the tag for the blurry in-line spoilers? The spoiler option in the post editor only seems to do the collapsible box kind.
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Can ya link me the raws or send me a link if you can't post her plz 😇
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Seek help
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What would happen to Yuuki's scholarship and general situation in his school would 100% depend on how it all turns out publicity wise. The school won't give a shit about people's suffering, it will only care about its public image and how much of the case would end up in the news, if any. At least that's how it goes on average in Japan. If the school attempted to kick Yuuki out due to saving a girl from particular brutal domestic abuse, he might still be able to reverse it by threatening to reveal the whole case to the press. That the school was happily employing a teacher molesting his own daughter, until arrested by the police. And that afterwards the school kicked out the student who saved the daughter. It would be a scandal and hurt the school's reputation quite bad. The school would need to weigh that against the arrested coach talking about a scholarship student living together with his girlfriend. Not really a difficult choice, if you ask me, but I'm not a Japanese school principal.
You say cartoonishly villainous i say just slighty unrealistic a lot of people are way worse, i know of multiple people who suffered way worse than just violent beatings (not to downplay it).
You might just be used (not trying to insult you) to manga were everyone talk together, they shout loudly maybe some punches are exchanged and everything is solved and the day after we act like nothing happened because we dont want to bring "shame to the family". Japan is kinda of a fucked up country when it comes to this kind of issues where a person needs exterior help to get protected.
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honestly, I feel like most manga I read don't depict interpersonal relationships very accurately, but that's kind of expected in fictional media. I also don't pretend to know a lot of japanese culture, though I still doubt that has much to do with this depiction... keep in mind i'm not saying "it's unrealistic that someone would be abused this much," i know full well the atrocities people can and have inflicted on each other goes much worse than this.
what irritates me is that this character being a secretly abusive shithead seems to only serve the purpose of having an antagonist and enraging the viewer, with barebones and unsatisfactory attempts to explain why this is the case to begin with. you can tell all pretense of this being a meaningful plot thread is dropped when he makes these shit-eating grins and says cheesy villain lines. it's just a bad guy to put the girl in danger so mc-kun can save her and they can be in love. and it's not like i want this rando manga to be some storytelling masterpiece, i just think it had the opportunity to be even a little thought-provoking and is kinda squandering it
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after boyfriend-kun beats his ass and sends him off to prison it will prolly go back
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they've given the reason, it's just a shallow, trite, cliched one. His wife/her mom died and he couldn't handle it, so whenever she did anything that reminded him of the wife (like made food that she made) he would just get angry and lash out and over time he became bitter and violent enough that it was all he had left.
It's a trash reason that doesn't have enough real justification or depth, but it is there.
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I mean, the series started with a girl trying to commit die.
It was just a matter of time until we tackled why she was trying to do that.
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Baseball coach's gaslighting game so strong he even manages to convince random mangadex posters.
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miss the wholesome appeal of the manga now. Honestly what kind of animal is he treating his daughter like that
Japanese social standards are weird.
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That looks true in hindsight, but until he entered he didn't know what evidence he would have.
As I said earlier, once he'd entered and seen what was happening, he should have used the element of surprise, driven his thumbs into the perpetrator's eyes as hard as he can, sought medical aid for the girl, called the police, and then bruised his own throat as if he'd fought the perpetrator.
welcome to america? And japan? and china? And everywhere there is domestic abuse?miss the wholesome appeal of the manga now. Honestly what kind of animal is he treating his daughter like that
Man Kaarme I missed you and this forum when mangadex didnt have a forum. You always have such great insight into things. Also we read alot of the same shit, so looking for your insight helps me expand my own.
