Dex-chan lover
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It was the right time. Shortly before he ended up confessing, he was thinking "Now I'm not under time pressure any more, I can wait for the right moment" and I was thinking "this is the right moment--if not now, when?" so I was surprised and pleased when he realized what was needed and went for it.
Yeah, in theory, catching someone just when she got dumped, rebound, not good, whatever. But! First, she just made clear that she wasn't in love with the online pseudo-crush. So it wasn't a real rebound . . . She said she chose to "love" him because she felt she wasn't good enough to be in love with a real live person! So she was crushed just then . . . but it wasn't the "crushed" of someone disappointed in love, it was the "crushed" of someone feeling they had to discard what little was left of their self-esteem. She was, right in front of him, deciding that not only was she not good enough for love with real people she'd met in person, she wasn't even good enough for love with random internet strangers.
He needed to tell her that wasn't so. In concrete, convincing terms, not just "Oh, you're a nice person, someone will surely blah blah blah not persuasive at all". There is nothing that says "You are worthy of being loved" like "I love you". He absolutely did the right thing--for her, at any rate, which is the important part.
Yeah, in theory, catching someone just when she got dumped, rebound, not good, whatever. But! First, she just made clear that she wasn't in love with the online pseudo-crush. So it wasn't a real rebound . . . She said she chose to "love" him because she felt she wasn't good enough to be in love with a real live person! So she was crushed just then . . . but it wasn't the "crushed" of someone disappointed in love, it was the "crushed" of someone feeling they had to discard what little was left of their self-esteem. She was, right in front of him, deciding that not only was she not good enough for love with real people she'd met in person, she wasn't even good enough for love with random internet strangers.
He needed to tell her that wasn't so. In concrete, convincing terms, not just "Oh, you're a nice person, someone will surely blah blah blah not persuasive at all". There is nothing that says "You are worthy of being loved" like "I love you". He absolutely did the right thing--for her, at any rate, which is the important part.
