Shin'yuu no Otto wo Ubatta no wa, Watashi deshita - Ch. 1

[HawkGoggles]

I agree. I don't think the author is trying to justify Rio's actions. By giving Rio story some depth, we can see where it went all wrong.

I like to believe that at the end of the day, we take something from these stories with us. So we can learn from mistakes we didn't make. For example, in this chapter Rio had the chance to say "well, actually my husband..." and get her friends' inputs. Now, I understand this is a huge hurdle that takes a lot of trust and risks, but... Life has never been easy, and facing it alone is a hell of a challenge.

The real sad part about all of this is that if everyone was honest about their relationships, at the very least they could have all stayed friends because no one would have tried to cheat with Rei!

 

[story645]

Well, Rio is a trophy wife, except that she works.

The working is part of the trophy - Itsuki is showing off that he's got a accomplished useful wife by bringing his colleagues to her cafe. It's particularly manipulative here b/c it could read as supportive if the reader didn't have the context of him not giving Rio warning and ignoring her protests.

 

[Vikingix]

I don't think this spin off is about giving some excuses for her lame attitude. Just to explain how she reached such a point (while still being totally wrong)

 

[ceoamaterasu]

I agree. I don't think the author is trying to justify Rio's actions. By giving Rio story some depth, we can see where it went all wrong.

this depth is almost as deep of me listening listening on why my ex cheated on me lol

 

[sleepyknight]

Well, Rio is a trophy wife, except that she works. It’s actually weird that Itsuki let her have her own business after marrying her, seeing how he expects her to be here for him so he can show off… or maybe he sees it as her hobby or sumn ?
Thanks for the translation

loads of rich guys buy their wives businesses like boutiques or small restaurants (see amy's baking company) to keep them occupied. its a flex for them. contrast rei, who's broke and thus excercises control over mahoro by keeping her at home

 

[AmethystLord]

God damn marriage sucks in Japan. I guess part of it was due to social expectation for women to get married young. Rushing into marriage judging women by their ability to become a good stay-at-home house wife or judging men for their ability to make money.

 

[Jatopian]

Well, at least this time they're making it clear from the outset that the hubby is kinda crappy.

Explaining why she cheated isn't necessarily an excuse of said cheating. I think the author framed that pretty clearly by giving us 50 chapters of someone who suffered constantly because of cheating.

Yeah, but then they tried to redeem Kyouko, so it remains to be seen whether this will be a case of it being somehow different when women do it. Heck, you can see people in this very thread already trying to make excuses for cheaters, and we haven't even gotten to the cheating yet!

 

[tototototoo]

Man I can’t help but think this reality is also reason for many young people not getting married in Japan. I can’t imagine marrying someone only to afterwards find out they actually suck yet not be able to divorce them. I still think what Rio did was inexcusable but that doesn’t mean I don’t pity her for being stuck in such a marriage.

It’s interesting and saddening that Mahoro thought Rio had a dream marriage and Rio thought Mahoro had a dream marriage. Yet if they had opened up to each other they would’ve learned the truth. But I’m not sure if Rei was so shitty from the get go or if he became so shitty after he started cheating with Rio.

 

[Seether00]

Why are all the guys scum?!

 

[RakshaJaeger]

loads of rich guys buy their wives businesses like boutiques or small restaurants (see amy's baking company) to keep them occupied. its a flex for them. contrast rei, who's broke and thus excercises control over mahoro by keeping her at home

The working is part of the trophy - Itsuki is showing off that he's got a accomplished useful wife by bringing his colleagues to her cafe. It's particularly manipulative here b/c it could read as supportive if the reader didn't have the context of him not giving Rio warning and ignoring her protests.

Damn, didn’t know about those types of controlling dudes. This world is sure full of shit huh

 

[donlanthirion]

this depth is almost as deep of me listening listening on why my ex cheated on me lol

Sorry to hear that... I hope it wasn't as bad as in this manga.

On the bright side, now you learned to talk to your friends about abusive partners, and, more importantly, to always carry a fingerprint kit!

 

[Nuclear_Feacesist]

.. and I can absolutely see a scenario where someone is desperate and the only way they can see anyone else helping them is by offering them sex.

What kind of help are you talking about here? I don't think I can trust someone that would choose cheating over divorce regardless

An abusive partner is already bad as is, there is no reason to become just as terrible as them by cheating when you can get a divorce on favourable terms.

 

[NerimaShinjuku]

We are so back baby!!

No wonder the birth rate is so low in Japan. Marry a loser and the government makes it as hard as possible to unchain yourself from them. Better to skip marriage altogether!

 

[Dragonliger]

you know how in romcom manga people are like "he didn't do much except being the base level of polite and all the girls are falling for mc" or things like that... if the other options are like the husbands of these two, I can see why politeness is a romance aspiration for japanese women geez...

 

[SomeFreak]

So your husband's an arsehole, therefore you must ruin another relationship as well. Nah, won't be feeling sorry for you thank you very much

 

[KinGrove]

Dealt with family like Itsuki before in my life who often manipulate family members with the whole, "I'm being hard on you for you own good" spiel.

Even had a scenario where I got tired of being told/asked to do things/favors at the last second and asked upfront for them to give me heads-up only for them to mock me afterwards and tell me I don't do much of anything anyways so why do I need a heads up for?

 

[kiero13]

I cant think of any situation that could justify cheating on a faithful partner, not even domestic abuse because i'd expect it to be more than enough ground to get a favourable divorce. Still look toward to the story nonetheless

In case you want this belief shaken, or just want to be irritated by the story lol
https://mangadex.org/title/78a664a7-2f4e-464b-b925-92984012f00c/anata-ga-shite-kurenakute-mo

 

[flowsthead]

What kind of help are you talking about here? I don't think I can trust someone that would choose cheating over divorce regardless

An abusive partner is already bad as is, there is no reason to become just as terrible as them by cheating when you can get a divorce on favourable terms.

People that have been abused are often afraid to speak to others. Domestic abuse often involves threats, actual or implicit, that revealing their status as a victim would only cause them more harm or even propagate the harm onto uninvolved parties. The type of help I'm talking about is someone seeking out help by enticing someone with sex, as in if you help me leave this situation I will have sex with you, or continue to have sex with you.

And I don't think cheating is just as bad as domestic abuse, I think that's a crazy statement.

To be clear, I am also not justifying Rio's actions because she has an awful husband, just saying that I could see a scenario in which someone cheats as a way, in their mind, to facilitate an escape. Most cheating is not done by victims of domestic abuse, so I am also not saying that most cheating is justifiable, again just that I can see that scenario.

 

[dogmeister238]

Boy after seeing both husband, Haruto has some heavy lifting to do

yeah im sure that'll solve the problem, haruto cheating on both of them with each other lmao.

 

[EchoGirl]

Thanks!
This is why you live together for like five years before marriage (maybe shorter all the tv shows have ppl getting engaged within a year, storytelling aside always seemed fast but also
The three dates before sex too depending on how you interact-time between dates too)

Well, Rio is a trophy wife, except that she works. It’s actually weird that Itsuki let her have her own business after marrying her, seeing how he expects her to be here for him so he can show off… or maybe he sees it as her hobby or sumn ?
Thanks for the translation

Owning a cutesy little cozy cafe is good optics and instgrammable depending on if their group of friends/coworkers outside the og would look down on her for being “just a housewife”

Tho considering his language I guess she already worked there before and didn’t “retire” /take time off from it or so