Inconsistent standards, at that.
Sometimes she wants perfection and resets repeatedly for frivolous things. Sometimes just once. Sometimes she doesn't bother. She sends extremely mixed messages as to where he stands (romantically) with her as highlighted in this chapter, with the cherry on top being that he's aware she can ruin his life whenever she wants if he doesn't go along with her or is out of line.
She's created somebody who's of course going to play it as safe as possible and for all her supposed intelligence she's somehow blind, confused even, as to how things are stuck in this weird horny standstill.