Dex-chan lover
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I want to f* the girl version of me too. Yeah.
oh god, im very thankful for not making me any part of lgtv commL, G, B, T, Q and + all at once? Amazing.
I'm a trans woman and he's eggy as fuck and living in a society where it's a lot more terrifying to approach transition and a lot fewer online spaces to explore those feelings.
This afterword hit me particularly well. I spent decades coming to terms not with my sexual orientation (full disclosure: straight as an arrow), but rather my identity as a sexual being, largely due to being raised Catholic I suspect. In trying to remain asexual outside of specific contexts (that being a romantic relationship) but also borderline addicted to porn, I ended up developing a bifurcated personality (one clean and one filthy) and oceans of self-loathing every time I "failed myself." Coming from the USA's perspective, where culture is also conflicted on the question of sex as both the end-all of gender identity (a patently ridiculous concept, but yet deeply foundational to the discourse) and yet something to be cleansed from the public sphere at all costs, I was constantly bombarded with negative reinforcement of this bifurcation and consequent cognitive dissonance.
This work does a great job of reflecting that loathing across the three main characters. Ultimately it doesn't quite resonate with me because it primarily dealt with gender expression as a vehicle of sexual desire (OK, that's a gross oversimplification, but you can see what I mean), whereas my personal conflict is solely on the idea of sexuality itself. But the core ideas it proposes are worthy of discussion and exploration, to show that no matter the specifics of your challenges, you are not alone and you can be seen.
Side note: This is not the venue for a proper discussion on the language to be used in the discussion, but I would really like to see the phrase "sexual vector" become the norm, which encapsulates the orientation(s) of the subject and their drive.
I hear you. I'm an intellectual (c.f. my reading list...I read your comment and I found myself resonating and agreeing with it on some points. I am by no means an expert, but to me it seems somewhat idealistic to introduce more sexual complexity (using sexual vector more) to people.
But I can't shake the feeling that we aren't that deep, and sometimes I truly wonder how much of this sort of sexual identity reformation is caused by trauma and self loathing to somewhat severe degrees.
Not trying to be overly insensitive, but it seems to me that Oshimi sensei ultimately did come to the conclusion that after going through so much trauma, pain and introspection, he has to keep moving and constantly re-evaluate himself and seek a more comfortable place.
To me the conclusion seemed very normal and rational after one confronts their mental conflicts and trauma.
If I were to put it bluntly and I mean it without offence, I think he couldn't find love that fulfilled his sexual identity/expectations, which caused mental conflicts that he proceeded to resolve.
Author gots a lot of stuff to deal with. But I think saying he should transition is like a bandaid solution to what he got going on.
Yeah that ... does kinda fall under gender dysphoria, but it's entirely up to the author to address it.He is aware of that, he wanted to be born as an actual girl instead. This is an afterword from his another manga 'Inside Mari'
In fairness, it is complicated for some folks because of how heavily tied together the concepts may be. It changes from generation to generation and culture to culture, so it's quite a stretch to look at someone who's 41, raised in a culture that has relatively strict gender roles, and go "oh you're just overthinking it".I feel like Oshimi sensei is over analysing both sexuality and gender. Part of it is probably because of the particular cultural lens Japanese people have, but also because gender roles and expectations are a lot more rigid there. One thing he could do is live elsewhere for a while. Also just go see a sexologist, and also a gender therapist. This stuff really isn't that complicated. He just needs to experiment.