Oh I’m not a stickler for “write what you know” or anything like that. I was saying the weird part is that “I” don’t like BL generally, not that most artists or enjoyers aren’t gay men.
I do feel that if you’re writing outside of your lived experience it behooves you to do your research and make sure what you’re writing isn’t actively harmful to the intended demographic though.
I’m not gonna drop a series just because a straight man or a woman writes a gay character, but I might roll my eyes or drop a series if it’s written poorly.
You are contradicting yourself in saying "despite being bi I’m not really a fan of the boy love genre in general" in making it sound like you should be enjoying the boys love genre as a bi man instead of just understanding that one's sexuality does not matter in what we enjoy in art.
I disagree on writing what you know when artists are struggling more than ever with the rise of remakes and AI. The ones fudging are not wanting to take risks because of that type of thinking. Research is common sense from the start but even then, we still lack representing minorities in the majority types of media instead of bringing awareness on the ones that do.
Eh.... My man, you said it was weird to you when I mentioned about sexuality =/= what we like in art. More so on saying straight woman and man instead of just, again, doesn't matter on sexuality and genre in what we make in telling a story