I can't say I relate to how she feels but I understand as I have been hit on by alot of guys. Liking someone of the same gender must be hard as most people will probably take your actions as just being friendly.
There's this channel of a dude who just works on his motorbike and champions sexual rights, he had this one video about how he (a stright white guy) followed through the whole spectrum of being disgusted and hateful into allyship. It struck a chord with me cause when I was younger it was so easy and permissible to allow yourself to respond to love with hate when it came from a place against social norms. Im for sure Ace as I am now, but me wanting to leave no room for being seen as possibly gay made me irrationally angry at any unsolicited affection I recieved from men as if I couldn't afford them the same indifference I responded to when women came at me with the same advances.
Its mainly that, that socially, it's much more easily acceptable to become hateful in response to someone who was probably your friend prior to any moment of coming out. Empathy isnt something they can come to expect even from people who they thought they shared a platonic or familial bond with.