Amayo no Tsuki - Vol. 12 Ch. 45 - Awareness

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I like the general tenor of this post, but I gotta say, that particular bit is not actually true. It sounds good and it goes with a message of trying to improve yourself so you can treat others better which is a good positive message up to a point, but it just isn't the case, like, at all.

Lots of people who love others deeply, don't love themselves. And cutting yourself off from love until you're all better is actually a terrible idea, because cutting yourself off from love is a great way to stop yourself from getting better.
Yeah, I genuinely hate whenever that saying goes around.

After more than a decade of constant therapy I've also come to the conclusion that a partner would actually help me battle the exact issues that I cannot seem to overcome by myself. I'm convinced that this is also the case for the people I know myself, who have severe lack of self esteem but are still in happy, long-standing relationships.

A partner can help you understand that there is nothing wrong with you, that you can be loved, that you are lovable and deserving of it. Cutting that possibility off is just stifling and honestly real shitty to see for folks like me.

E: Just saying "you need to work towards loving yourself" is all cool and good, but it's simply not always possible to make much of a headway towards that. Some folks are just fucked up, and they still deserve love, and it is still absolutely possible for them to find a relationship that is satisfying for all involved.
 
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I'm surprised it's on the right tracks :aquadrink:
Thank you for your work!
 
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Yeah, I genuinely hate whenever that saying goes around.

After more than a decade of constant therapy I've also come to the conclusion that a partner would actually help me battle the exact issues that I cannot seem to overcome by myself. I'm convinced that this is also the case for the people I know myself, who have severe lack of self esteem but are still in happy, long-standing relationships.

A partner can help you understand that there is nothing wrong with you, that you can be loved, that you are lovable and deserving of it. Cutting that possibility off is just stifling and honestly real shitty to see for folks like me.

E: Just saying "you need to work towards loving yourself" is all cool and good, but it's simply not always possible to make much of a headway towards that. Some folks are just fucked up, and they still deserve love, and it is still absolutely possible for them to find a relationship that is satisfying for all involved.

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It's fine to say 'oh you should work on this part of yourself' but a lot of people genuinely aren't in a place for that.

Self-acceptance is important, but the idea that if you don't love yourself that you'll hurt those who do love you is off-base. And one of the main issues for people with have low self-acceptance is how easy it is for them to see themselves as being "bad" for other people. This is why people don't reach out when they need help--they don't want to burden/harm/hurt someone--even if that person else would actually love to help them: most people find meaning in caring for those they care about when they need help.
 
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Lovely chapter. I'm up-to-date with the raws and I've been loving how well done and emotionally resonant this arc is.
 
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Made my stomach turn… but I believe in Saki. Forward momentum!
 
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Lowkey that was pretty selfish of Saki and is just causing more of a gap and more chapters full of misunderstandings between the two. Also making Kanon feel on the edge.
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On the positive side though... Saki is starting to realize what she needs to work on so that's a bit of a win
 
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Dude even ants is way better at them when it comes to moving forward :facepalm:

They just can't stop torturing their self and each other. oh my feathers...
 
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i get that she's a coward and all that, but here's the thing:
if you do stuff like this to the person you allegedly love, you're hurting them more and more.
Saki is not getting any sympathy from me, but i am still rooting for them.
For Kanon's sake.
 

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