@Darksouls2ez its more sensual with a bit of teasing. I doubt its universal, but the foreplay, teasing and fetish play is far more arousing than the sex itself. Find it always makes an orgasm feel better and last longer especially when the person you're with is enjoying what you're doing.
Always wanted to go to a soaplaand, but the one I know about in my city gets hit by the cops a lot, so they basically made it a swingers club too which leads to a lot of men fucking eeachother or at least what a friend told me when he went to check out their other services beside rub'n'tug and rub'n'shag.