@uran10
Well, you're actually in the minority here, pal, you said so yourself: "that's why most relationships fail."
Happy for you, though, and yet, I've met quite a number of people who are not
socially inept fans of manga, geeky things, or anything otaku related, you know, that "most people," and quite often it's just how it is.
We're protective, we don't want to expose ourselves. In Japanese culture relationships are much of a bigger deal than here in the west, here we don't really care about our pride or others' feelings that much. I would never confess since I'd get hurt if I get rejected, but being a western man, I'd
can just kinda start dating the person if I can and want to, without all this 'dangerous' stuff. And, sure enough, when you don't even really talk about your relationships, when you and everyone else around are treating all them with 'ease,' no wonder it doesn't work out.
Now, this right now might be a wild thought for some, but in Japan most people are what otaku culture calls '
Reaju,' people that don't really confess too! Now where's fun and pure love in that? There's not so much, so we hardly get this 'real' life in manga and anime. In books, though, oh boy. Try Almost Transparent Blue, it's timeless for this topic.
Or, remember all those kinky narcissistic-looking guys in doujins that drink with girls and then fuck them? Well, guess what, while they're portrayed as rapist mofos, scum of the earth, but it's more of a calque of real normal guys that get laid. The normal japanese college guys that drink and do stupid stuff, and get it on with same normal girls. Sure, it's not completely the same, cultures are different after all, but my point is, your western school and live experiences could be much closer to japanese ones than you might expect.
That's what 'normal' fans of japan (japan cyclejerks, more like, tbqh) mean when they say to weebs that the "Japan" they love is not real.