@Doomroar
Edit: I just realized that
@JohnJRenns made a better take than mine on the subject, but I'll leave this here just in case someone's interested.
You should repost this on Reddit as well, so we can have a proper discusion without this weird tagging system.
Now, I haven't taking any electives in gender studies, but as far as I can risk, the general conception is that people are born Queer. I did take a course in Contemporary Philosophy though.
(From this point on, I'm sorry if I mess up my reasoning or if I offend anyone with what I'm about to say. I'm still pretty ignorant, so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.)
For these thinkers the only constant in life is change, and change is the essence that defines every human being(Even if you change you are indeed you)
But change doesn't come from nowhere. It comes from our experiences, stuff like where we were born, who are our parents and friends etc. Essentially, our past.
Past is made on facts and even if it may not define who we are, it certainly tells something about who we were. Humans also use that knowledge as a basis to set who they aspire to be (Future).
And all of this stuff I said right now to boost my gigantic ego, were also to serve as an argument for the hipothesis of this comment: Even if one's born queer, the reasons you'll end up identifying as one will vary from person to person. The struggles too. In this case, the kid is queer but the father was the catalyst that initiated the process of self-doubt, rejection and reconstruction.
Disclaimer: That thing about having gigantic ego... Is a joke. I'm not that confident tbh but I like to put my knowledge to use. Oh, and forgive any grammar mistakes as this is my second language.