@aceasulter
That's where you're wrong. I'm speaking from first-hand experience, as well as second-hand experience. Good friend of mine is part of what he calls a 'throuple', in addition to my own situation over the years.
Is it rare? Yes, for the reasons that I mentioned. The people need to be compatible and able to trust one another fully. Do most attempts fail? Absolutely, because of those two reasons. No matter how much you think 'This is easy, I like everyone involved' people rarely understand the level of trust and devotion required. It's easier to lose everything than to gain anything by entering such a situation, people are rarely committed enough. Part of this stems from the persons involved not understanding themselves, let alone one another. Especially early on it's very difficult to fight through issues that crop up due to biological imperatives and the feelings that stem from them, such as jealousy and abandonment. Almost as if the mind starts creating new negatives that don't have any logical basis, just to make the person in question feel more justified in distaste. However, if you're all good enough to be able to support each other, and fully trust one another to handle each other's issues, then it's possible for everyone to get through it together by leaning on one another - a success makes those bonds just that much stronger.
But yes, thank you for talking down to me about something I've more experience in than you. I feel suitably chastised, now. How dare I have a different opinion.
